NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is a relational and nervous system-based approach that addresses life-long psychobiological symptoms and interpersonal difficulties.

When early relational needs go unmet

When a child’s early relational needs go unmet, they adapt in the only ways available to them. To preserve connection with caregivers- and to survive an environment that feels unsafe or unresponsive- children often disconnect from their bodies, emotions, needs, desires, and even their core sense of self.

These adaptations are intelligent and necessary at the time.
They also come at a cost later in life.

Child Consciousness

As NARM founder Dr. Laurence Heller describes, these survival strategies exist in Child Consciousness – a way of experiencing the present moment through the filter of unresolved developmental trauma.

Within NARM, this isn’t pathologized or judged.
It’s simply a way of understanding how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world.

Adult Consciousness

By contrast, Adult Consciousness reflects a growing sense of integration and wholeness. As early adaptive patterns soften, we increase our capacity to stay present, to connect emotionally, and to live from a more coherent, authentic sense of self.

A depth-oriented approach

NARM is a depth-oriented approach to complex trauma, including attachment, relational, and developmental trauma.

Depth-oriented therapy differs from supportive therapy, which can offer temporary relief through expressing one’s concerns and frustrations in therapy and being supported and validated by the therapist. NARM focuses on reshaping what is happening internally, supporting greater agency, authenticity, and connection. 

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) often develops from long-term or repeated trauma, such as childhood neglect, emotional abuse, or relational wounds. Unlike single-incident trauma, C-PTSD impacts the nervous system, sense of self, and ability to feel safe in relationships.